"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
CW - thank you for that quote.....thanks for reminding me of the Hope/expectation difference....I'm well aware of the difference and I really have to stop expecting that he will behave in a way that he would in the past...business and personal....and that's the hard part....forget who he was....and accept who he is now.
SA - you are right, never in my life would I've imagined this is where I would be financially at this stage of my life. I look back just 2 years ago....running successful business, having the middle class lifestyle, loving husband and a great little family.....it's all gone....and at 53 I will be starting all over again. I can't let him drag me down any lower financially.
I've been working on spreadsheets, budgets and such, so I have everything ready for the lawyer that I'm planning to see.
I must admit that I'm overstressed....so many things on my plate....so little time. Just jumping from one task to another putting out fires....don't know what to do first.
Did some GAL last night....really needed it. I went to a 25 year reunion bash with a bunch of women that I worked with in media years ago. Amazing to see everyone after all of these years. Had a blast....great to reconnect with everyone and catch up on their lives. About 16 of us came, and the life stories were fascinating. I must say that about 75% of them were on their 2nd and 3rd marriages. Is that normal, or is it because they are all in the entertainment business? LOL
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Just enough time for a "drive by", but I wanted to say "HI!".....and I LOVE your new alt photo! You have one gorgeous eye, lady! ..........what's underneath is even more beautiful though.....
Thinking of you and hope to have more time to post sometime this weekend.
Just stopped by to wish you the best. You sound really strong. Keep going...sweetie...this financial stuff is just another bump in the road. Do what you need to do.
Don't stress yourself out...go back and read your thread - see where you were and where you are NOW!
Chin up kiddo
Oh...and can I still borrow the car? LMAO
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Grit - I appreciate the confidence you have in me GAG - Thanks for the "eye" compliment LOL Eric - This financial stuff is the most stressful part....but soldering along
And yeah Eric, jump on the plane get your butt over here and you can drive my car LOL
It's been pretty stressful, dealing with H & money/business. The latest announcement from him is that If I don't believe in him and the business, then I'm replaceable and I should resign as a director and get a job. I asked him if he wants to bring OW in to replace me. Wouldn't answer. Told him that I want an answer...have they discussed it? He said "I don't have to answer that". So there is my answer I guess.
But when I said that even if I resign my position as a director I'm still a shareholder of the company and will have a say about who the company hires. He seemed surprised....let him stew on that. He cries to me how I don't trust him and don't believe him and he is making plans to push me out and plug in OW?
Going to work on my resume today and talk to a realtor about my house and look at a townhouse I like.
Despite all the stress I'm GALing...Had great time with my GF last night. Went downtown to a private social club...met bunch of new people, had some great appies and tasted some unique beers....I'm not big on beer, but it was fun.
Hope everyone is well
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I asked him if he wants to bring OW in to replace me.
Let OW deal with the stress, the MLC H, the downfall of the company! The "you don't trust me" whining! Could be fun to watch! First, sell your shares and get the heck outta there!!! LOL...jk!
Glad you had a great time last night! I had to go check out your eye!!! Very nice Mila! Good luck with tht resume!
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But when I said that even if I resign my position as a director I'm still a shareholder of the company and will have a say about who the company hires. He seemed surprised....let him stew on that. He cries to me how I don't trust him and don't believe him and he is making plans to push me out and plug in OW?
Going to work on my resume today and talk to a realtor about my house and look at a townhouse I like.
Mila, this must be incredibly difficult for you. I spent 20 years building a career in academics so I have an appreciation for all of the self-sacrifice (all-nighters, missed vacations, 60-80 hr weeks, etc.), blood, sweat, and tears that you've put into your business over the past 20 years. I chose to leave that career to save my M, but also because I knew that it had interfered with my quality of life during those 20 years. It has to be hard for you given your circumstances to feel that you are being put into a situation where that may be the only choice you have (It is possible that it may not come to that, but you are being smart to prepare for that possibility and to get counsel on your options.)
GOOD FOR YOU that you gave H something to think about!! How could he have not thought about that?????? He is still deep in the fog. Brain dead!
Please continue to vent here and control your emotions with H as much as possible. It is not fair, but if you can keep your cool, it will really help to prevent this situation from spiraling out of control. In the long run, this will be best for you and your D.
CW - it's starting to be so tempting to just walk away from it all and leave H to deal with business...or what's left of it. That would be such a mental relief for me....so tempting. It may come to that, but not yet...have to continue for now.
GAG - Yes the business situation is extremely difficult.....it really seems that because of the stress of it, out personal relationship...or what ever is left of that...is much more strained then before. I don't DB....I can't in business....I can't be walking on egg shells around him and just say things that don't upset him and validate all the stupidities he says or does these days....
But you are right I can control my emotions....I should be doing a better job on that in front of H. Thanks for saying that, I needed the reminder.
Hugs
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Journaling - Went the bank this morning...picked him up...didn’t feel like making conversation in the car. He started few times and I replied with the shortest answers possible...so it was mostly silent. Got all the papers signed...so the line of credit against the house is done. Told him that I’ll pay off personal debts and hold off the business debts until we sort out the legalities. Told him that I have a Realtor coming and may need his signature on the listing. Said OK. When I come home I received an email from him informing me that he will be out of town again for a week.....I just give up. This is crucial time for business, just borrowed tons of money, forced to sell my home and he is leaving town again. So yeah, that kind of morning.
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..........what's underneath is even more beautiful though.....