INTERESTED IN MLC FOR LBS

[Albuquerque]

I have been doing reading on midlife crisis and it can be associated with an Avoidant personality which I believe my wife has had for years and is associted with midlife crisis. It can be treated with medication and counseling but again my wife would need to agree.

Bobby,

I am certainly no expert but am a bit concerned about this statement. While the MLCers definitely fall into states where medication is often beneficial (my H is on anti-anxiety AND anti-depressants), it is by no means a TREATMENT. It may help them cope and see reality slightly better, but it's not going to snap them out of MLC. They still have a journey ahead of them. And counseling, IMHO, only works when the person in counseling KNOWS why they are there. Insisting on counseling on someone who feels THEY are the victim will be utterly pointless. If SHE realizes that she needs help working out her thoughts, then it can certainly be of benefit. From the sounds of it, it would not be good to welcome her back to the home. She made her choices and she will need to deal with them. You sound like you are being as supportive as you can and taking care of your family like you should. THAT is your purpose. Stop trying to FIX her. Only she can do that and it doesn't sound like she's realized she's broken yet. I think you are realizing you have a lot of work to do on yourself. Get to work on that.