Time will tell; and you must stay strong, regardless of how this goes.
At this point you have one of two decisions; one, to wait it through, two, to let it all go for good.
Whatever you decide to do is up to you.
I know he must want to be helped, or he won't BE helped.
He is in "pity me" mode at the moment; but don't give him that.
It must be one or the other; the marriage OR the other women, there is NO in between; there's been a great deal of damage done; and he is beginning to see that.
People will treat us as we allow them to; and although he loves you, he cannot be allowed to continue in this way.
One of the consequences I believe he's beginning to see is that he will LOSE you; if he doesn't put his best foot forward, and continue his path to get help.
Sexual addiction is a real problem with some men; and it takes many of them a long time to heal, IF they get the necessary help they need to work toward that healing.
It can also play a big part in the MLC; as it is escape and avoidance behaviors.
SA is right; your husband DOES care; but the addiction has a huge grip on his life.
Get off the rollercoaster, detach and distance from his drama; it is HIS problem; don't make it yours.
You can help by praying for him; the power of a praying wife is something to behold in action.
You can do this, Jennifer; you've come this far; you can go a little further.
Remember, you can't fix this for him; you can only be there for him, keeping yourself strong.
Keep us posted on how you and he are.
Remember God works behind the scenes; and He knows all things; He knows the pain, the misery...and although working toward the solution is always painful; He is there to support us because we can't get through these things without Him.
You must let your husband go into the hands of God, and allow Him to work within your husband.
Take care of yourself.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
