What happened to the advice that you can't control another person. Why does he have to change the way she treats him in reaction to the way he treats her? Why can't he just do what he does because it is the best thing for him to do and ignore her response to it? I thought the problem here was the manipulation and the reacting to her.
You're misunderstanding what I'm suggesting, Lotus. All I'm suggesting is that HE be the one to go dim/dark, and -- for once -- be CONSISTENT about it. His wife is now basically doing what all of us have suggest that HE do, all this time, and he needs to flip that around.
