last we he asked if he could come by and see Iowa (our dog), i agreed... of course nervous on the day, and worried if we would start arguing. But it turned out to be a fun filled day hanging with the dog at the park, stil no talk of the R.
Now today he asked to come over to see the dog, and said if i wanted to catch a movie. I aggreed, happy inside but didnt want to sound too estatic. He told me how much he regreted making the harsh decisions he made and that he understood how much i meant to him. He said that after my holiday at the end of the year, that we should go to marriage counselling. I was taken back, he was always against it.
Originally Posted By: lovehurts2
I knew i shouldnt have asked, but i had to ask if he had hooked up with anyone in the 3 months.Even though we were seperated he was entitled to do what he pleased.
Did he mess up? Or did you? You indicate that it was OK for him to see other people. You knew you wouldn't be able to hear the results. You asked anyway. Do you really want this relationship or were you finding a way to torpedo the process?
Originally Posted By: lovehurts2
He said he kissed two different girls, both girls he swapped numbers met out again. Nothing ever happened but kisses. He said he stopped msging the last girl, cause he knew he wanted to be with me.
I sent him a long email of how i felt , and how i felt betrayed..and how i couldnt understand how can u love someone but stil look astray? I just dont get it?
am i overreacting guys??? should i just let go cause we are seperated??
I'm just so hurt, cause he cheated in the past..and it was only 6 months ago we renewd our vows, 3 months of seperation and he has already kissed 2 girls.
the email i sent was pretty harsh..i was trying to control my emotions..and i pretty much implied i dont want to work on this marriage.
Im stuck in whether i want this to work or not??
You were separated. He chose you. He had other options. He chose you.
Set your personal boundaries on what your new marriage will look like. (transparency, counseling, integrity, affection, etc.) If he is willing to work on your marriage within your personal boundaries, why wouldn't you want to work on it? If he isn't, why would you?
