Okay Bobby O, just my perspective here. When my H first left 8 years ago, we spent an entire year of his leaving and coming back, leaving and coming back, in some sort of sick cycle. When he was home, I walked on eggshells, when he was gone, I cried myself silly. Eventually, things smoothed out, but the journey was not finished, and here we are again. This time he has been gone for almost 7 months. While I have grieved, and been angry, it has been much better than before when he came and went.
You have to have a firm grasp on YOU, because she doesn't have any idea who she is while in MLC. Don't argue the point, but don't accept it is 'your fault' just because she says it is. Next, it will be 'your fault' when it rains.
You sound like you are doing a great job as a Dad, and right now, that's the best you can do, and the most responsible.
