feelings as OW seems to be on way out

[forward]

New Guy's ex wife died. He understands that the kids need to understand what's going on when something is wrong. So if I took D, he would get that.

I did tell D (because she wanted to know where he was) and she cried, but I explained to her that he is going to be OK.

if nobody else takes D, I will, but not just yet as I am not sure that she needs to see him in his current state. I will wait until he is more stable. ILs may take her; if they do I will not go.

This is a situation that tugs at me, but I fear I would be unwelcome if I were to go w/o D. And that would open up sad feelings for me. And if I'm unwelcome, I'm not sure that I would offer any kind of comfort anyway.