WAW The cold & cruel truth!

[MrBond]

"Detatching?! We have 4 kids! How in the he'll do you do that without appearing to be a bitter axxhxxe?"

First off...CALM DOWN. Most of us have kids so don't think we don't understand. Detachment is a state of mind. You detach your emotions from her. Treat her like you would someone you know casually at work and not a wife.

Have you actually read DB or DR?

You are letting your W's emotions control yours. But you notice that when you act in a way that she isn't "expecting" i.e. the ignoring, she feels "hurt". CONTROL YOURSELF. Don't let her control you. You don't need to be rude or a d*ck. Just do things in a matter of fact way.