Oh my Dagny. He sounds exactly like my xh when he tore our family apart. They become this person that we've never seen before don't they?

You know what I'm going to say but I'll say it anyway. STOP TALKING TO HIM.....AT ALL!!! No good will come of it. Go completely dark. If he wants to talk to the kids he can call them (do they have their own phones? If not have them answer...I'm sure you have caller ID.) If he wants to speak to you when he calls, step outside and tell the kids to advise their father that you are not available. See, if you are outside then you are likely not available...no lying. If you need to work out scheduling for the kids then do so only by email. Not phone, not text...email. You have written records of everything he agrees to and any abusive language he uses toward you.

This is now a battle and there can be no friendship in war. Protecting yourself and your kids is priority #1. Your H is so far off the deep end that he is not going to turn around any time soon. Treat him like a mental patient....with kidd gloves and lots of 'bless your hearts'.


T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!