How should I proceed now? Is there hope?

[Dagny-2]

NCU,

Your post of how you feel and all that H says to you could have been written by me. It reminded me of the much repeated saying, believe nothing of what they say and only half of what they do. It is so true, though, they are engaging in revisionist history and also failing to own up to their own short-comings and laying them at our feet. Though I know there is more we could have done (there always is), we did not deserve the treatment we got.

I think detaching comes from the actions you are taking, that you do the things you are doing, stay busy, not contacting H, not being needy and then the detachment follows. And then they start to sniff around. But, so much easier said than done. Especially those lonely evenings or the evenings spent with the happy couples. But when he comes back, you will be stronger and you will like you better, and that will make a world of difference.

Dagny