I can look inside myself and see why I am resisting reality. Things are already AS THEY ARE. That's it, that's reality, My anger and depression isn't caused by her being with him, it's being caused by my perception of what that means to ME. I am resisting what is so I suffer. I know this. But obviously it isn't deep enough into me or else this wouldn't be having the effect it's having. So I have work to do. Letting go, letting life, accepting reality, dropping resistance, elevating my mindset to a level where I can feel peace and contentment in my life right now with everything as it already is. So, since I"m in this loop, you'll probably see posts and such from that perspective.
Brilliant.
Continue detaching. Doesn't mean it's not gonna hurt. Doesn't mean you're not going to have moments of thinking how inappropriate she's being. But those moments won't be hours, days of spinning. Have the thought, acknowledge it, learn what you can about yourself and let it go.
You're keepin' it real, my friend. And that's a very good thing.