Obviously, you need to put as much distance between you and XH as possible. As for your poor daughter, the damage he is doing is his to bear. As she grows older, if she is anything like mine, she won't stint on telling him about it either. That doesn't mean she won't forgive, but she won't forget.
When you project yourself in the future, think of all your good friends and family that has supported you through this rough time. Time heals. I believe that, and it doesn't have to make you the neighborhood 'cat lady'. How about middle aged, looking good, and living life to the fullest. Those things do not require a man, but if you find one to share with, so much the better.
