What am I supposed to do???

[Tay Tay]

Long story short I went to my husband job on 9/19 to talk to him and he knew that I was coming. He came outside on his break with a hospital band that you get when you have a baby on his arm. I asked him who had a baby and he told me the OW. I asked him was it his baby and he said yes. I asked him when was he planning on telling me and the kids that he was having a baby. He told me that it was none of my business but he was going to tell the kids when the time was right. He said that they are going to be together and raise the baby. Now my husband has only been gone for 7 months and I asked him how is it his baby unless he was cheating before he left. He told me that the baby was premature and hanging on to life. I told him that the OW told me that she had a boyfriend and it was not him. I asked him wouldn't he think that the baby was her boyfriend's. He said that the OW is lying to me because she wants to respect me. I said oh so her letting my husband move in, sleep with him, and have a baby with him is respecting me? He was only on a break so he had to go back inside.

I called his mom and she got very upset about what my H told me. She said that he told her back in May that OW was pregnant. She said she asked H was it his baby and he told her no. She said she spoke to OW and she told her no it was not my H baby it was her boyfriend baby. My MIL said that my H should not be so cruel to me and tell me the truth. She said that if it was his baby she would have told me even if H didn't.

I talked to my H yesterday and he told me that he had signed the Paternity Papers. I told him that he was stupid being that he did not know if that was his baby. He said that it is his baby and that was that. So I asked him if I asked OW was it his baby what would she say. He got very upset and said that I was being insensitive knowing that the baby is clinging to life. He said why would you call her with this foolishness and she is worried about if her baby is going to live. I asked him again if I ask OW if that is your baby what would she say. He said that he does not know what she would say being that she is trying to respect me. He said that she is never going to tell me the truth of the situation.

I decided last night that I am going to see a lawyer as soon as I can get a free consultation. I am going to file for divorce on grounds of adultery and I am also going to name the OW in the suit. I am so beyond done that it is not funny. I told my husband when all of this happen that there are alot of things that I can forgive. The one and only thing that I would not forgive is him having a baby with someone else. The baby does not have his name or last name. He has not been to the hospital all week to see him and the OW did not call him to update him on the baby status. I told him that is funny if he is the dad wouldn't he be up there after work. Wouldn't she call him and tell him how the baby is doing? The bad thing about it is my H is absolutely dumb enough to sign papers for a baby that he knows is not his. If he ever did come home then the courts would consider my income as well for child support by us being married. No money is coming out of my pocket to pay for his illegitmate child. Anyway I would love all of your thoughts about this new update to the situation.