Change is in the air........

[goodattitudegirl]

Thanks SA, CW, MHL, Grit, Cas, Lance, Mila, and PEI for your feedback. I'm updating now on recent developments. Sorry for the length. It's hard for me to post during the work day, so I tend to catch up in spurts.

As we walked out of the restaurant to our cars, I was a bit buzzed (2 drinks on an empty stomach) and said to XH, I always thought that the problems we had were very solvable. He nodded and agreed in a receptive way.

First, I want to clarify what I wrote above. XH didn't nod in agreement that HE thought the problems were solvable. He just said "I know you thought that" and seemed agreeable, not defiant like in the past.

You've given XH a lot to think about. Prepare yourself for the possibility that he may retreat for a while to process.

SA, I really appreciated your reminder. I was bracing for a backlash,.........but surprisingly XH DID follow through on what he said he would do. I didn't hear from him on thursday (he said he would ask BMF about the package thursday evening in person). I sent him a short e-mail friday morning because I needed to get the name of the tree removal service his business partner recommended:

Me: "Hey! Happy Friday! Can u tell its been a full moon week? Thanks again for the drinks! Nice bday celebration ......and I love it that you're mixing up your table tennis strategy!.....(stuff about the tree removal service)......Thanks! GAG P.S. Do u have any new movie recommendations?"

Mr. GAG replied 3 hours later:

"Afternoon! The winds were really strong last night! Heck, if it didn't 'fell' last night...I'd keep it there before I would chop it!! (and then it's covered totally by insurance...think about it!)

But...you could get (info about the tree service).

BMF....asked him if he left the book. Couldn't pick up anything that made me think he did. (I also don't want to think he did and don't anyway). We talked about it at length. I didn't at any point (in the conversation) think it might be him. I looked for the (hair)brush which is not my main brush but OW#2's and don't see it there.

Table tennis was fun....and you are getting better. Nice for you to simply have more practice. Maybe next week....

Movies...not sure. The Jamie Lee Curtis one sounds funny? The Wall St. one didn't get great reviews, but might still be good.

Have a good weekend. ............ Oh, I need to come over and get the Kayaks sometime and string them up in the garage for WINTER!! (his kayaks are still at my house from our outing in July)

Mr. GAG"

I posted the entire text from Mr. GAG's email to see if anyone has feedback about his tone. I was VERY surprised he wasn't defensive, and it almost sounds like he is "in this" with me and wants to know the answer to "who sent the package?". Time will tell.......

what you mistook for acceptance was really him peeking out of the tunnel to see where you were. He seems to be at a later stage of replay right now.............At some point this cycle will need to break.

Lance, I agree TOTALLY with what you wrote and REALLY appreciate your assessment. It gives me some hope that you think he might be toward the end of replay. I hadn't thought a lot about that recently. I am becoming pretty detached, but I am a very goal-oriented person (a master of delayed gratification) so I keep putting one foot in front of the other, even though I don't see where it will lead.

And you are right GAG ... they are a fantastic bunch of gents (might even be a lass or two in the group ) ... oh, and you'll get used to the language ... glad you didn't let it stop you from picking out the golden nuggets!

PEI, I think they (gents) are the "d'bat pack" and you are their "Shirlee McLaine". Re: #$%&*@ language, it takes a lot to offend me. I've even been known to utter a few curse words myself. A long time ago I worked as an ICU nurse. You can only spill body fluids on yourself so many times before you learn to curse (hope no one was eating just now).

So to summarize, in the 2 years since the bomb, XH has had 2 longish Rs that I am aware of:
--OW#1: an MD who after 2 months dumped him in a 3 page e-mail telling him everything that is wrong with him
--OW#2: I think she is a secretary who wanted to M him after ~6 months (best I can tell) and might be a bunny boiler.

GEEEEZZZZZ, dating is SO much fun, isn't it???? Wonder if XH is beginning to remember why he fell so hard for me after dating those 100 women before we met??????????

GAG