I'm back :( Not sure if I belong in MLC though

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Jennifer,
I am so sorry that you find yourself in this sitch but I can relate to all you're going through.
H and I R in May 2009 and during most of this period he has continued with similar behaviours as you've described above. Although I have put boundaries in place, I have not been consistent in following through. If you are going to set a boundary with your H, please ensure you follow through otherwise he will not take you seriously and it ends up becoming a vicious cycle.
At this point since he's already staying elsewhere, I don't think you should ask him to come home. He needs to work through HIS unresolved issues and it's much healthier for you that he's out of the house. I hope he gets the help he needs. I wish my H would agree to seek IC/MC.