Biggest mistake I continue to make is arguing with her feelings and it's gotten me nowhere. I need to stop that, it doesn't work.
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Originally Posted By: mza8
When we talk about the M, all she says is that she is done. ...she'll bring up reasons and things during this 10 month S between us that I've done that has reinforced her not trusting me....I try to tell her that my actions were just reactions to things she did and that I needed to protect myself. Of course she doesn't see it that way.
Do you see how the above contradicts what you said in the first quote? In "defending" yourself against her feelings towards you, you are both arguing against her feelings AND pursuing her. How else could you act/respond?
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
