Dgtal, you don't sound like you're giving up. That's the right way to do it. If the treatment didn't work, the sooner you can forget it and try another way, the better. I'm pulling for you over here.
Sooo . . . . what, specifically, do you want? What would you and your wife be doing and saying if you had your problems solved? Think about what a day in your life would actually be like. Things like "we would have sex more and do more fun things together" don't count. Specific things like "we would take bicycle rides together" count, as do things like "we would take showers together again." Specifics.
