My feeling is that over the years I've simply become too soft, and always helping her, doing anything for her. I've nearly always done more childcare than her on top of running my business, it just isn't attractive. In fact she's told me that I'm too much of a "pleaser" but then again criticising me for making major decisions in the past without her.. the contradictions abound then you start feeling guilty for what you might have done.
On the depression front, what do you do with someone who denies there's a problem. Case in point this morning, "Ohh I feel much better and that a fog has lifted I'm not depressed anymore but don't let it think I've changed my mind about us I don't want you to have any hope of us getting together" Why does she have to keep reinforcing this every day. ?
She will not go to counselling or treatment and you can't force someone. It just feels that there is no hope left whatsoever in this marriage..
