I want to say I share GAG's opinion. For you to bring up "trust" in a conversation with H would be implying to H that you are full-speed ahead in a reconciling relationship. IMO, that will scare him back to NC with you. This is for right now in the current state of affairs. Down the road when things between you and H become more involved the time will present itself for "trust" conversations. IMO, you and H have a ways to go before you should dare to bring up the topic. Your H needs to be more transparent and involved with you personally for starters.
You are doing fine, muster that patience. You have found it before so I know you can do this.
I think your anxiety has you looking for trouble sort of speak. Work extra hard at not making up assumptions about what H is up to or doing. Don't hastily draw a line in the sand. I think you need to be reserved and let H continue to lead. After all, your H is being really positive about contact. Remember what happened to me when I became too comfortable and began to take the lead.
Take care ((((Cas)))), I think about you every day.
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11