How should I proceed now? Is there hope?

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NCU, it's often said that men compartmentalise better. Maybe that's why they detatch more easily? A thought. I would add that a lot of the best advice on this board is given mostly by men to male posters...sometimes I wonder how much the gender thing matters.
Someone also posted an article from the Psychology Today website about affairs - and how men in passionate affairs are more likely than women to do crazy stuff and destroy their family etc. The article said that women feel more guilt about doing that.
Stay strong!