Trying to find the end...

[A_goodman]

BBF,

IMO, the first thing you need to do is figure out what you want to happen. Is MC the important thing or who actually sets it up?

Is working on the M and maybe saving it the important thing or being right?

I am in MC. I researched long and hard and found that MC is not a panacea. It is actually the LEAST effective treatment avenue in all of medicine. The success rate is coservatively 25%. Copounding that dismal record is the fact that often it actually has a NEGATIVE influence on the result. You see, any mental health pro can hang a shingle and call themselves a MC. Only Liscensed Marriage and Family Therapists have any required supervised clinical experience requirements to be degreed. Even then, they might not be fully pro-marriage.

Do you really want to stand on pride and leave the selection of a person to help you resolve your difficulties to your H, who by all accounts, hasn't been terribly interested in honestly working on your M or shown a past history of having good judgement? I would do the research and find a pro-family, mc just in order to make sure you have the best chance to get SOME benefit out of this. Otherwise throw your money away in the casinos. You'll have the same odds.

He has said he would go. Take that as a positive and get to work. You can work on the things you want in time. Setting boundaries requires work and time. Don't short youself the latter because of pride.

Good luck girl!