So here I am folks. Officially divorced and officially done.
Today was day one. My phone is turned off and there is no reason to stay in contact anymore. You'd all be proud of me. He doesn't have my new phone number so he e-mailed me three times today. I simply deleted every single one.
He doesn't have the right anymore to know about my life. My family has been so strong for me the last eight months and now it's my turn. My mom's double masectomy was today and the surgery went well. We'll know in two weeks how much chemo she'll have to endure but the outlook thus far is good.
I have to send a shout out to all the wonderful people in this forum. I know it was theraputic for me to post here and read all of your replies. I'm so greatful to all the strangers who took the time to read my sob story and give me pep talks. You all saved my life! Thank you so much!
I'm hopeful for the future that I can stay strong and keep my distance from exH. I have bigger things to worry about and I refuse to allow what happened to me to rule my life.
If you can't run, crawl. If you can't do that, find someone to carry you. I've had such wonderful support over the last eight months. My turn to carry.
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
Brena, look at you! new thread, new hopes, new you- I like that! Good to see you're feeling strong and know what needs to be done. We're all very proud of you.
I'm really glad to hear your mom's surgery went well and I hope everything turns out well from here out.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Day four of no contact and I'm doing great. I can't believe the relief I feel. He e-mailed me again yesterday trying to find out how I was doing and how my mom's surgery went. He hadn't heard from me in a while and "was really getting worried." I considered e-mailing him back to say that he didn't have the right to know anything about my life anymore, but then I remembered, I've said that to him before. No need to say it again! I deleted the e-mail. When we closed on the house on Wednesday, I didn't say anything mean. I simply said "I love you, take care of yourself, and goodbye." I don't feel guilty for anything and I'm finally proud of myself. I'm proud that I've followed through with my own promise to myself. I know it's only been four days, but I feel really good.
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
Day four of no contact and I'm doing great. I can't believe the relief I feel.
You're doing well. Set a goal for no contact to one week. Then as you get closer extend it another week. Before you know it you won't even want to contact him.
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I simply said "I love you, take care of yourself, and goodbye."
And those few words will haunt him...that's what I wish I could say except because of DD it'll be "I love you, take care of yourself and goodbye - errr...until next time we have to talk" the last part kinda kills it.
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I don't feel guilty for anything and I'm finally proud of myself.
You will move on with a clear conscience. That's the beauty of it because you tried, you fought for what you believed and you won in the sense that you did everything right but the outcome wasn't in your control.
Originally Posted By: Sol
Did you ever find out about that job? Are you moving soon? Where are you staying right now?
^^^ good question, I was wondering the same thing.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
My job interview is tomorrow. I have a schedule that runs over three hours with seven different people. They are flying my into the city for it. I'm hopeful that means good things! I'll post tomorrow to let you all know how it went.
Question. I did something silly over the weekend... Got intoxicated and got it on. No other way to say it. I don't regret it. It was really great but now I'm feeling something for this person. I'm constantly thinking about them and I did talk to this person about it and they are feeling the same way about me. I guess my question is... Do you think that this is just because I've been neglected physically for four years and had a really crappy past 8 months dealing with a betrayal and this person has made me feel good about myself again?
I'm moving in less than two weeks. It's better to stop it now before it gets harder, right?
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
My job interview is tomorrow. I have a schedule that runs over three hours with seven different people. They are flying my into the city for it. I'm hopeful that means good things! I'll post tomorrow to let you all know how it went.
Question. I did something silly over the weekend... Got intoxicated and got it on. No other way to say it. I don't regret it. It was really great but now I'm feeling something for this person. I'm constantly thinking about them and I did talk to this person about it and they are feeling the same way about me. I guess my question is... Do you think that this is just because I've been neglected physically for four years and had a really crappy past 8 months dealing with a betrayal and this person has made me feel good about myself again?
I'm moving in less than two weeks. It's better to stop it now before it gets harder, right?
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
