You're right I may get to a point where there is nothing else I can do. The end of my rope, so to speak. I can't live like that anymore - and it's either going to change or we are done. He knows that, I have said those exact words to him.
Then, you've effectively put the ball in HIS court.
Was this the point where he decided to get help? I certainly hope so, as I should think you've taken all you can take of his bad behavior.
You should probably have come down on him much harder than you did, but to beat yourself up about that now, is the same as crying over spilled milk.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, forgive yourself for being human and move forward, Jennifer.
At the time you were letting things go, you thought were doing the right thing...and sometimes it's hard to know what to do at times.
You take a chance, either way you decide to go; you set boundaries, you could lose them, you don't set boundaries you could STILL lose them...so you don't have anything to lose by setting healthy boundaries for your own protection.
You hope they come out of it, but when you see a cycle beginning; boundaries are the first thing you should do.
It's not too late; he's getting help for his problem.
Now, you wait and watch to see what happens next.
I only hope he sees the light of day; and begins to face his problem...it is the first step toward healing within himself.
Keep us posted.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
