Aren't ye the lucky fellows to be able to meet up and have a real laugh! Hope Friday evening went ok. It's the worst for me, but I got through it. Saturday is not so hot either, but I know my H can't get up to much with 2 (out of 3) kids in tow. Enjoy the weekend. I don't know how I'd have crawled through the last weeks without this forum. NCU
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
I was on vacation last week, but before I left I emailed my W and told her that "My plans have changed. I won't be filing the D papers now." She emailed me last week and asked if I had found a L and if so could she get his info.
Anyway, I didn't email her back until yesterday and stated:
"Dear W, I just wanted to say Thank You, for giving me back my life!! Although, delayed two years …I guess that couldn’t have been helped… I had forgotten how true euphoric elation feels. It has been crazy on my end with presentations, interviews. I was out on vacation last week and I don’t see the craziness letting up for a while until I am settled out of the country and even then starting a new assignment and a new life...it is just crazy!! I suggest that you retain a lawyer and file an uncontested divorce a mediator will want us to negotiate and split assets and liabilities that were accumulated during the marriage…fake or not!
There are a couple of issues that you need to address. The first is that your job keeps calling my number for you to work extra could you please remove my number from your references and replace it with your number? Also, I have a ton of mail for you and it keeps coming, could you please forward all of your mail to your place. If you need help in doing this let me know and I will help you, but I need it to stop ASAP. And finally, I need to have my name removed from your auto insurance. I do not wish to held be liable for any accident that you may have while we are still legally married.
Cheers!
H She reponded back by apologizing for the inconvenience for the mail etc. Then she asked if she needed to get her own L all very sweet and nice.
I responded back today stating, [color:#33CCFF]"Thanx! I will start returning to sender until it stops…I want this to be nothing but a bad memory soon! I didn’t put the mail in the box…got home late last night and have early meetings today about my move to new job assignment…sorry![/color]She then responded back: "Hi H, Thanks for the email. What do you want me to do about the lawyer? I guess I just get my own lawyer and start the process. I assume you want the divorce process moving fast if you are moving. Please let me know otherwise I guess I will just contact a lawyer.
I am sorry about the mail. It is really nothing I can do to stop the junk mail. Please leave my mail downstairs tonight if you can so I can pick it up. I would really appreciate that.
Thank you,
W" I responded back: "Okay, I will leave the mail downstairs tonight. Unlike our speedy marriage the divorce process will take a little longer and you assume wrong… I am not sure if she was giving me an opening with her assumption that I wanted to move the D process fast or if it is just miscommunication, but I took it anyway.
I had a great week with a dear friend and it really took my mind off of the sitch. I feel that I am really detached at this point in time and in fact beginning to think that it might be time to date around a bit...nothing serious, just to socialize.
