MWD has an interesting article linked on the front page about healing from from an infidelity.
I know that one of the guys I work with had a WAW who divorced him after 25 years and it took him years to get over it. Ultimately he went through a 5-stage grieving process that helped him get to acceptance of his lost marriage. I would expect that one would need to do something simillar to get past the betrayal of an ifidelity.
I looked back at some of your and goalie's posts. I really admire the way you are approaching life and family. Good luck to you and I hope that you get to acceptance and find happiness.
P.S. Modern medicine is really wonderful!
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.