How should I handle MLC direct lying?

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I am sure you can find a way to share activities with others, without violating your commitment, and hurting someone else. How to do tell a potential date you are standing? Uh... I am married, my marriage is in limbo and I want to use you for companionship until my H stops being a dufus. ??? Instead, try looking for activities you are interested in. Try meetup.com They will have a variety of things. In my area, there are foodies that try different restaurants, wine tasters, book clubs, hiking and biking groups, jazz groups and so on. I like to volunteer. Nursing home, animal shelter, some fundraising, and more recently, a congressional campaign. Lots of ways to take the edge off the loneliness.

I'm married and off limits. BUT...I think I've emotionally divorced him or something. I don't know what's going on yet.

This may be that you have reached a level of detachment, or that you are repressing. Read up on detachment...it is a good thing, but is a scary thing at first. I was very worried..."why don't I care anymore" after working on it! duh...
Click herefor a good article on it.

As far as the friends go, if they bring up H, tell them you'd like a break and would appreciate not having to discuss H for awhile and you definitely don't want info about him for awhile. If you run into H? Smile, be cordial, and walk away. "HI! How are you? Good to see you! Bye." After I was NC for awhile, (and more detached) i was able to step out of it and become dark and even dim. I still find contact sometimes getting too much and I duck back under!