PEI: My motives for dating would be mostly out of boredom. Somewhat to keep me occupied (is that the same as boredom?). And for the sake of 'having someone' as I put it. Do I think this is all a great idea? No. Do I think I would be jumping the gun personally? Yes. But it's still somethng I sometimes want to pursue. Not to get into a serious R. Not to "use" someone. Not to have casual S. Just to have contact w someone of some kind.

WhatNow: I REALLY like the "while you're behaving inappropriately". I'll use that when needed. I like it even better when you refer to your H as "acting like a douche" smile Made me smile. As far as dating/marriage vows: I really feel/felt the exact same way. I'm married and off limits. BUT...I think I've emotionally divorced him or something. I don't know what's going on yet. I don't really even believe in D. So if I have a piece of paper saying I'm D, it means less to me than my own feelings. Very hard to explain.

Question: we still have contact w many mutual friends. These friends are crucial to my support system. How do I handle that? What if we see each other at an outing/get together?

THANK YOU AGAIN


M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years