How should I handle MLC direct lying?

[WhatNow]

Wanting out, wanting it to end, NOW, are common feelings among us LBS's.

So do I go NC and then say "I won't have a relationship with you unless..."? Or say it and then go NC?

The word "unless" is controlling. Until 'implies' you are waiting, maybe. "while you are behaving inappropriately as a husband." would work.... I like the way I originally said it. "I will not have a relationship until... " Don't get into a relationship conversation about it. Just say it, 2 or 3 times if you have to and end the convo.
When do you say it? You could wait till he says "why aren't you replying?" But then you'd have to break your NC. I would send an email with the single statement, and leave it at that. Then he can read it over and over til he gets it.

NC means NC. It also means no indirect contact, which is even harder to achieve. Indirect contact includes, Hearing about him from others, Looking at his FB, and even thinking about what he is up to. Working on these though will get you to peace more quickly.

Dating? Are you married? Do married people date others? How will that help your marriage? I can't answer those for you, but I will tell you my answers and what they mean to me. I am married. Even though my H is acting like a douche, I am sane -well, mostly!- and I believe my vows said something like 'forsaking all others'. Until H D's me, I intend to keep the vow I made, even if he is not keeping his. I also vowed 'all the days of my life' as opposed to 'unless you act like jerk and break some vows.'