I might have confused the times he was out getting high (after your 15th anniversary) with potentially hooking up with some one. The text messaging scam sounds like BS though. And don't overestimate how much time an affair takes, especially if it's someone he works with.
Soleil mentioned the "info gathering" thread. It might be in the Infidelity forum. I'd try to find out for sure if there's an OW involved. It would explain a lot.
I don't understand why you don't want to check his phone. Ignorance is bliss?
Same with not wanting to go to MC. If he's willing, but wants you to take the initiative for setting it up, are you going to let your pride get in the way of salvaging your marriage? MC isn't a cure-all, but your husband might open up if you both go.
I asked him when he wanted forgiveness because of the coke trouble, if he had slept with someone during one of those nights away and he swore up and down he didn't.HE told me sex is the last thing he wants when he's on coke. Now...I've never tried that drug so I don't know if your're horny or not.
He works heavy construction. Not a lot of woman around. I can't see it being someone with work. Ons still sticks out. Like a sore thumb.
I know it's my pride but I need to know I'm not again throwing my all into something when he'll turn around and do something else to wreck it. Hurts too much.
I think if he comes to me first we can have a conversation for once and I can ask him questions and we can find mc together. I want all his cards on the table. If he's not willing to work it out I wish he would just tell me. I feel like it's always me. The man just doesn't express himself anymore.
