Yes, I think I have let go, but I need to continue because I know that I am not totally there especially when the D progresses. You are right about the dating site. I cannot see any activity and I do not want to. All I can see is if she has been on the site because it shows when she was online the last time. I stopped looking because it only is speculation anyway.
I am glad that you are going to the gym and looking out for yourself. I still recommend distancing yourself from your H and continue detaching. It was easier for me because the NC that my W is using forces me to detach. Make yourself less available to him.
Pinhead was right when he kept hitting me over the head with the concept. Detaching allows the ability to look at your sitch objectively and asked the question "is my W worthy of me?" So please continue detaching and you need to prevent your H from coming to your home anytime that he wants. There are a lot of posts about boundaries. I have not read all of the them because I am not there with my sitch, but I recommend that you do so that you can adequately set-up boundaries with your H.
