Ups and Downs

[Energizer Bunny]

Good questions Pinhead. (Sorry that you find yourself here by the way)

I don't think that I was too bad of a spouse before the bomb. I have made significant changes for the better anyway though. My changes have stuck so far. I listen, validate and am considerate of W's feelings more than ever. Possibly to a fault.

I have allowed her to do anything that she has wanted and let many things just slide. I haven't set much for boundaries.

W puts on a happy face all of the time with me. She tells me that I am "such a good guy" then goes on with her separate life.

I am actually glad that I said something today. I think that she would freaking go on like this forever. It doesn't seem to be an issue for her at all. She has been standing with one foot in and one foot out for way too long. We can't keep pretending that everything is fine. I am OK being friendly if the goal is to fix our marriage, but not to play buddies just to yank my chain.