I believe your H is not doing this TO YOU. You are taking it all way too personally. What he is going through has very little to do with you, even though you are bearing the brunt of the fallout. You need to get out of the way!
I do not want anything to do with the person my H has become....the total opposite of the man i marries and have known for almost 25 years. I also know this is the nature of covert depression, MLC, andropause, however you wish to label it. So I stand. I live my life knowing someday he will come out of this. When that happens, I want to be around to see who he has become. Most of the stories I have read, say they come out better than they were before it began!
Riding the rollercoaster with him will leave you feeling just as crazy as he is.
Tell him in a language he will understand (if there is one!) "I will not have a relationship with you until you become an appropriate husband" should work. Then you will have some time to get your power back and get on with your life.
A few warnings...don't go NC to get him to change or to punish him. It won't work. All you can expect is time. Time to regain some peace, to focus on you and not worry what he is up to.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
