Why such the strong urge to place a label, stage or a name to this?? It's almost like you are expecting this to all be so clear cut and dry. Maybe it's easier for some deal with this if they view it as such, but I'm here to tell you it's not this "structured, patterned, your going to go through these steps and be completely over it" type of thing.
Spot f*cking on Trapt...spot f*cking ON!
All I'm gonna say...is spot on.
We seem to act like MLC is some sort of "cake receipt"...Like we can figure out EXACTLY what ours spouses are gonna do next. It's bullchit! Every M is different, every person is different, every sitch different.
We should not think that any of us can figure out the exact timeline/role/process of the MLCer. So please do not try the following... if it is 80 in South Beach and Mach is walking out of a ALL male bondage store with handcuffs AND PEI is drinking a beer in Canada AT 9PM AND My MLC wife is pulling into the driveway AND She said hello to me yesterday...that
She is now 3 months away in the replay stage.
We cannot plan any of the this...we can only do ONE thing...LIVE OUR LIVES...BE THE BEST WE CAN BE....
We will all cycle... We will all hurt We will all cry We will all TRY and figure it out
Some M's will be saved Some PEOPLE will be saved Some will remain miserable in their lives
BUT
NOT ALL
So, in closing I repeat...to all LBS's - stop trying to figure it out, stop trying to come up with some timeline...and focus on ONE thing.....
YOU and YOUR Happiness...
The rest....
Leave it to GOD.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
