Another poster said recently "that you can only fake it until you make it for so long"
So....does that mean he didn't make it?
The way I look at the fake until you make....is that we eventually become our thoughts. If we do positive things "on purpose"--does it mean we are faking if we don't really think or feel the positive thing we did? If that was the case then I probably would not go to my job site a lot of days, nor tollerate some of the people I come in contact with (nor smile at them).....and I wouldn't attend Church regularly, or try to cheer another person when I felt off myself. But I've learned that if I determine within my own heart to put into motion what I "know" is more positive than how I may "feel", then my thoughts/attitude will catch up. Do you see what I'm trying to say? The point is to eventually "make" it...or in other words, "become" what you are projecting!
FWIW, I do understand what you and Soleil are saying...and nothing is much harder than trying to be positive when your life is falling apart.
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is it knowing S3 will be "ok
And this is where your true heartbreak lies. Your little boy who you would lay down your life for him....will he be ok?
My other post probably sounded rather cold about M & family, but I am certainly in favor of families staying together instead of D, if they can live together without somebody going insane or being abused. For the record, there are a lot of abused H's out there b/c it comes in different kinds of packages.
Will S3 be ok? IDK.....and nobody does, but you want somebody to just tell you he will be okay if you get a D. Staying M does not promise us that our children will be fine. I wished it did!
Do you get 50% visitation? Would you continue to live in the same area as your W if once D? Would she leave you alone and move forward? If she's the type that she's turn batty and is going to make sure you go nuts, too......yikes, you've had it. Do you trust her with S3? I think those might be some things that would at least help you started in finding some kind of "end". However, I hope you will think more about a new beginning in life.
None of us know what is our end. I'm not sure we need to know. We face life with our personal beliefs/standards and faith. We make the most, hopefully, of each day that we have.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
