WAW left on Independence Day and not communicating

[NotCrackingUp]

HIH

Hope you have a good holiday. You sound as though you've "let go" marvellously. wish I could do the same, but my situation is different. I too have started going to the gym, with the intention of toning up all the wobbly bits and getting rid of some of the anger and negative feelings that are eating me up.

No talk of D from my H, at least he did talk about it when he dropped the bomb, but the latest is that he "doesn't want a D, just "time and freedom". A bit like "peace, land and bread" (was that Marx or Lenin?). Sounds great, very '60s, but I suddenly feel as though I'm headed for the Siberian salt mines.

Do you have any contact with your W now? I agree with the poster who told you not to go looking at her dating profile. Whatever you discover will only hurt you and/ or make you anxious or falsely hopeful. At one stage, I believed recently that my H had signed up on some kind of dating site - when he didn't have internet, he still used our computer here, and some links I found seemed to point that way. The OW for whom all this was done is no longer an item in his life, apparently, but he did say (in August) that he wasn't planning on staying single. I feel great hurt and jealousy, but don't go trying to find out about his love-life. It would only hurt me further.And what he says I must take with a pnch of salt.

I hope that you manage to get what you want out of your future. Enjoy your break.
NCU