Keep in mind that filing is not the same as divorcing. At least she will know you are serious and she will have to get off the fence. Once she has to make some hard decisions she may get the 2x4 in the head that she needs.
You know that not filing will just drag out the misery - it sure won't put you on the road to reconciliation. It sounds like I'm advocating divorce, but I sure as hell can't say "just wait a couple of more months, IDU, and see what happens."
I know, I know, I know.
I don't think you are advocating divorce. We are here to avoid that if at all possible. We are also here to improve ourselves. I have been doing that. I am in a much better place than I was. I am a better person than I was. And I know that being around her hate and vitriol isn't healthy for me or the kids.
I know that I don't have to tell anyone else how hard this is. We all know.
