tbart thanks for the update, I know it's been quite a process for you but you did prove that fear of loss/crisis (ie. moving on, letting go of your WAS, finding someone else, etc.) will usually bring a spouse back.
But... she may have dropped the divorce and you guys are taking it slow but that just means you're still living in limbo. No divorce and you don't get to interact with that other woman so your wife doesn't divorce you but keeps you at a distance and you get to continue living separately in this non-relationship marriage relationship you have.
I give you major points for moving on or at least attempting to.
You will soon find out if it's worth waiting for your wife to wake up or of it's time for you to continue moving on and no longer play games with your marriage. After a while a person gets tired of the one foot in/one foot out business, you're either all in or you're all out, no more toleration for in between / limbo status.
