We don't move through these stages fluidly.

We say don't focus on where the MLCer is, so why focus on where we are as LBS?

My grandfather has been deceased for 26 years. Some days I still miss him very much. I allow myself to feel that.

Am I still grieving? I don't believe so, as it does not stop me from living.

As an LBS...

I am happy with me, happy with my life, happy about my future.

Does that mean there isn't occasional sadness about what was?

No. But it doesn't stop me from living.

Can I bring my MLCer through this tunnel?

I don't think so and honestly, I don't want that responsibility. His crisis, his issues, his to move through as he does or does not.


"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox