Yes, I am mad at myself for not setting boundaries a long time ago. I guess I could consider myself an enabler at this point. It's just that the different times that I confronted him about inappropriate emails he would promise it wouldn't happen again. And when the EA began rather quickly the beginning of this year, I found out right away and he ended it immediately and was supposed to start counseling - he went for 2 sessions and never went back because we couldn't afford that particular Dr as he wasn't in-network on my insurance. I feel that maybe I should have been harder on him about continuing to talk to a therapist and finding one in-network instead of letting it go and thinking things were going to be okay. Then, a few months later, I found that he contacted her again or she him, I am not sure of the details. And he gave me the excuse that she sent someone into his store - which I flipped my lid about because she shouldn't be sending anyone anywhere with regard to my husband bottom line - I said "how nice, things between you and her are just fine and your wife sits here all screwed up in the head?"...the thing is, I can only imagine what I DON'T know.
You're right I may get to a point where there is nothing else I can do. The end of my rope, so to speak. I can't live like that anymore - and it's either going to change or we are done. He knows that, I have said those exact words to him.
