2 years later it's still not getting easier

[whitneypinch]

Ha,

Ya, we all have up and down days. One day I hate her the next I miss her.

My friend the actress was one of my closest friends. When my W left the actress totally hit on me and suggested that we should get married.
6 months later she had become best friends with my ex and no longer talks to me. Oh ya, my ex was an actress at one time too.

I am at the point where I ready to tell my ex that I no longer wish to have the contact we have. My ex has her own life now but yet still wants to know about what the kids are up to when they are with me.

Here is what I am going to write to her the next time she wants to know what's going on with the kids:
"love and miss you and our kids very much. My family is the most important thing in the world. It makes everything I do deeply mingingfull.

We are a family, PERIOD.
Families do whatever needs to be done when there are times of trouble. When there is any problem in a family everything gets placed on the back-burner so the issues can be worked though.
EVERY family has challenges. What keeps them together is commitment and a value system. I believe 100% in my family and would do what needs to be done for my family.

You have made a decision to not work on our family. That is your decision alone.
What I will no longer do is participate in the situation the way it is.