You must be able to ID the LBS stage that you are in.
I believe that the LBS leads the MLC'er through the journey and you lets say are in self growth or foregiveness.
I think Cadet was trying to ask are you cycling from one stage to another lets say backwards to resentment. Or are you cycling within the stage itself, trying to get to the next level?
Maybe Mach or Cat would care to comment where they think they are in the stages?
I think the question of what stage are we in, is a valid question.
Do we need to answer that to move forward, or to help us find a way to move forward? Maybe.
Cat while I would agree that we do need to "Just live, With yourself" I would think that this is also one of the stages.
And not the last one.
Why such the strong urge to place a label, stage or a name to this?? It's almost like you are expecting this to all be so clear cut and dry. Maybe it's easier for some deal with this if they view it as such, but I'm here to tell you it's not this "structured, patterned, your going to go through these steps and be completely over it" type of thing.
And I disagree that one must know what "stage" they are in. I can almost guarantee you are not where you think you are in all of this.
We are grieving, and while we are expiriencing similar pain and whacked out behavior from our spouse, or ex's we all are different and we all are facing a little different hurdles in life.
Cycling is completely normal within this process, it's how we deal with this and how we heal from it.
You are setting yourself up for a big let down by placing so much effort and energy as to "where" you are in all of this. Not to mention wasting time and energy.
