I'm sorry, this whole "snooping is BAD!" thing, to me, is just one of those mantras that gets mindlessly repeated, until it becomes part of the official catechism, without stopping to consider the real merits of it.
Puppy [/i]
Perhaps I didn't state my position clearly enough. I have no issue with snooping nor am I struggling with the "ethics" of it. My W is engaging in deceitful behavior and I'm with you on the trust but verify mindset. This is a battle for my M, and I need to know what I'm up against and what actions I might need to take to protect myself and my family from outsiders and from her own destructive behavior.
My point is that while I embrace the concept intellectually, I'm struggling with the emotional side of it. My proposed list was an attempt to give myself some ground rules until I am in a better place emotionally and perhaps help those who are committed to snooping but afraid that they can't handle it.
GH, I understand that. The part you quoted of mine was from my archives, and not directed to you per se but to another poster, long ago. I did add my 2nd bullet point (use a "filter") for your sitch, tho.
