I don't feel like I flip flopped. I am pushing to end our M, but that doesn't mean we can't see each other while it's happening, or even afterwards, for that matter. She is competing with other women now though. I am building a new life, and I want a legal, financial, and custody foundation to build it on, which still doesn't mean we can't see each other. It does mean I am not seeing her as her married husband though. She is impulsive, it's one of her attributes. I wasn't saying that as something horrible I'm trying to get away from, just something I'm aware of, and something I need to deal with in these legal wranglings. It's charming at times, and infuriating at times.
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IS the affair still the issue?
It is as far as I'm concerned. We have no foundation for reconciliation as long as she refuses to completely abandon all ties to OM, and show me remorse. Other than that, I think we'd have a good chance at successful reconciliation. I'm at the point now though where that's just one of my possible futures, and I'm fine with it.
