Given the time involved for MLC, and the journey that the MLCer really has to take, could it be that for the LBS to really move through these stages or to stop the cycling your MLC spouse has to come out of the "fog". Or put differently, how much of our journey is tied to theirs?
Although this is possible and our journey is tied to theirs, it does not have to be the deciding factor.
Cycling, the one year mark, being done or not...
All very good thoughts...
Truth is, it is very normal at the one year mark to begin to question your stand...
Because you are just really beginning to realize that this stuff takes TIME.
And it has already been a YEAR.
Yes you hear it, you read it, but when you are not in too different a place with your S after a year, you begin to really feel it.
The difference, is you are different. You are beginning to live.
I have to wonder, instead of worrying about being done or standing...
What if we were to just live?
For a while. Just live. With yourself.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
