I just have to interject that, for me, the divorce did not grant me an immediate release of all negative emotions. I have heard a lot of people on these boards say that they can't wait for the D process to be over so that they can be 'free' from the pain, grief, etc. In my case, that didn't happen. Maybe it just means I was too attached, who knows?
But I mean, when a person dies, having the funeral ceremony doesn't resolve all of the feelings of grief. And having the D signed doesn't remove all of the pain there, either. Just my experience.
