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[Mila]

Eric - your conversation with your MIL really touched me...it reminded me of my conversations with my FIL. He feels the same as your MIL, doesn't approve at all of my H's choices. Said that he can understand how one can get into an affair, but can't comprehend that they would sacrifice everything for it and caused so much destruction and pain. Said that he doesn't want to loose a son over this and is praying that everything will work out in the end.

I made mistakes, many, BUT I never “intended” to hurt her or my family or you. I can look in the mirror and say that I know with all my heart that every mistake I made was never done with the “intention” to hurt anyone. As for my M.A., maybe one day she will need to ask herself if her actions were “intentional”…if they were you can tell her, that is if I am not around, that I forgive her.

Eric this paragraph really "jumped at me".....you are right we sometimes behave in ways that hurt our spouses.... unintentionally. In marriage this could happen....and you may not even realize that you are hurting the other person unless they tell you. I don't know if having an affair would fit into that category....they have to know from the start that it's wrong and they are hurting us.

(((hugs)))