Beyond Depression..but still a losing battle?

[Lucky11too]

Thanks! Sometimes I feel like I have to check my sanity on this board to keep my feet grounded. H is so convincing & stubborn that sometimes he makes me question myself(ie. - was I really in the wrong? Uh no!) Thanks too for the info on legal separation. That's definitely all stuff to keep in mind for me!

So the drama continues (but lesser luckily). H sent me a text last night around 10. I heard it come in but I was already in bed and asleep so I didn't respond until this morning. He said:

H - If you understood how I felt, you would have text or called me last week. And yes, I was pissed that you made plans and I had no idea about them. I felt like an a** for squeezing a few hours to see u & then u tell me that u'd rather spend time w/ your neighbors.

I just responded back explaining that I wasn't chosing them over him, but that I had already agreed to have dinner with them and that I needed to keep my commitment & asked him to understand my side too.

I'm begining to think that it's one of two things (or maybe both). 1 - He was just trying to pick a fight. He feels down so he wants someone and something to put his anger at. 2 - It's a control issue and he feels like he's losing control. I chose the neighbors over him! How could that be possible?! Who cares that he's done that to me numerous times you can probably recall on this board how many times I've said I've asked H to have dinner with us but he's turned me down b/c he's had other plans, and maybe I feel a little sad, but I let it go). He's probably also feeling a little insecure b/c he "had no idea" about my plans. I don't know, but I think that text was pretty revealing about his insecurities, but it doesn't help my sitch any with him being attacking and mean. I also think it's funny that we are fighting b/c he wanted to spend time with me, but b/c of this fight, we haven't seen each other at all in 2 weeks! Just seems a little ironic.

So it will be interesting to see how he comes back in response to my text this morning. Hopefully he'll just let it go, but I also have to brace for another attack.