Thanks! I recommend shopping around for a L because each has a different spin on the sitch. Financially she could ask for alimony, but the argument there is that she had zero income as a student when I met her and graduated debt free from a private school with a large sum of $$ in the bank and a good career as a RN.
This was all accomplished while I supported her and assisted her in her school work, which I have email evidence of. I do make a substantially more than she does, but the argument is that she would not even have a career if it was not for me and that I did what I did to support her because I thought that it was supporting us as a family.
Amazingly, I think I am at a comfortable zone with regard to detaching. I do have my moments, but they are few and far between. I am spending more time with my boys from my previous M and I do okay alone as well. I am GALing took a few acting classes and working out like a mad mad at the gym. I have a vacation planned for next week with a couple of friends and we plan to enjoy NYC.
So I can confidently say that I have let my W go - I love my W, but I do not need her to make me happy or my life fulfilling - that is what I control and what I have responsibility for!
