Hey Future, I've been following along your sitch too. Your sitch has me scratching my head. Very confusing what's going on. I hope it works out for you.

I think I tried the counselling/coffe route because I started to see some positive signs from her. Obviously the wrong thing to do. For whatever reason things seemed to be getting better lately. Not sure if it's because she is getting closer to D or if it's something else. We have been talking on the phone almost daily. It's usually about the house but we also talk about sports or something not too serious. I think my fear is what keeps me from letting her bring up counseling or anything. I guess I fear that she won't so I need to try to bring it up. I need to stop that.

I'm not too concerned about the dating site anymore. I'm not so sure if she'll notice anything with me after last night's conversation. It did not end well. I have major damage control to do. I'm just going to contact her later and leave her a short message with the house update for today. That's all I'm going to contact her about from now on. I really screwed up last night. I should have not even mentioned the letter or that it bothered me. All I did was reinforce her bad feelings about me last night. What an idiot. I guess that's what happens when emotion takes over. It's tought sometimes to take the emotion out of every conversation.


M 38
WAW 36
Together 19 years
Married 12 years
Bomb/Separated Oct. 09
I love my wife
Sitch