Do you realize you are arguing over a couple hours on a single day over the course of a couple months, part of which, if not all, will be spent with friends their own age?
That's the point she was trying to make. My point is simple. I want an absolute "official" 50/50 custody plan in place, to protect myself legally, and to give me something to fall back on, if and when things get ugly between us. She is the queen of saying something in a conversation, then steadfastly denying she said it, or insisting she said something different. Her Mother and I have comiserated on this tendancy of hers, and it's infurating. I need to have it down on paper.
Unofficially, I'm willing be flexible with any reasonable request, and I probably will relent and let her get the kids after school on my Fridays. Then I won't have to leave work early. We're both going to need each other to help cover sometimes.
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Are the two of you using this to avoid coming to terms with the "real" issues you need to deal with?
Do you mean issues around her A? I made myself clear about what she needs to do to allow us to reconcile, and I've given her plenty of time to do it. I've owned my part every way I know, and accepted probably more than my share of the blame. She is still apparently choosing to refuse to own her part, so I have no choice but to get the legal framework in place to end our M. That's what I'm trying to do, to protect myself, and give me some sort of solid platform upon which to build a new life. I need to know what my custody schedule is going to be for the next 10-15 years, and I need to know it's solid and not vulnerable to her impulsive nature.
